In Your Face and In Your Ear - Kill Negative Self Talk!

The RTVS Live® is On NOW and Live on FB Live via Dr. Patrice J Carter's phone as I'm STILL in FB Prison! "iN Your FACE & iN Your EAR™" with Dr. Patrice J Carter along with "DA-INTERNS" Kayra PerezJasmine MillsGerald Williams and Paul Murray. Today We're talking about "How To Kill Negative Self-Talk"!



"The military spouse community has helped me to realize that I don’t have to fit a particular mold or demographic- that I am valuable just as I am and accepted as a member of the team with a place at the table and a voice that others want to hear."

Dr. Patrice J Carter, founder of Breakpoint Coaching, is on a mission to empower, equip and inspire executives and entrepreneurs to live, love and lead authentically, transition boldly and breakthrough to new levels.

Learn all about Dr. Carter on our latest #EmpoweredWomenEmpower blog!

Why You Should Consider the services of a Life Coach!

I TRULY LOVE serving others as a Christian Life Coach- I find that often all people really want and need is to be heard, understood and walked in the right direction.

I am sharing an article which I found to be extremely resonant as it relates to why you should consider hiring the services of a Life Coach and why many people don't:

Read the full article here:…

"I should be able to figure this out for myself!" 
Can you set your own leg when you break it? Many of us are stubbornly independent but in this highly specialized society sooner or later we all have to admit we need help. Smart is a relative term. We're all smart. We are just smart at different things, and sometimes we need specialists, whose training and life experience combine to better understand what we're going through.

"Between God and my spiritual discipline, I should have all the answers." 
Seeing a coach for nutritional advice, a kinesiologist, a homeopath, or an emotional coach does not reveal your spiritual weakness. Rather, it highlights one of your great strengths. It takes a lot of courage to seek out help. An ancient scholar once said, "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed."

"I have my dignity, you know!" 
Yes, coaching can be a humbling experience. At some point during the interactive
client-coach relationship you probably will come face to face with some of your shortcomings. Yet if change is going to happen change will have to happen. Sometimes it's easier to start facing these shortcomings with an objective professional coach who can help us find what the next step should be.

"It's so humiliating to admit to anyone what I have done." 
All of us have regrets. We have all made some poor choices and if we had it to do again ...hopefully we would make healthier choices. Confronting the emotional baggage that our choices have produced is at times humiliating. It is for this very reason that our coaches are compassionate, sensitive, and non-judgmental.

"How do I know I can trust this person's advice - or that he or she won't gossip to others about me?" 
I sure understand your skepticism. That is why you should demand a coach who is licensed by a reputable agency; who has extensive academic and professional training; who has signed a rigorous code of ethics and who has a proven track record; and has been seasoned by the experiences of life.

"I just don't have the money right now." 
The old axiom "you get what you pay for" is even more true today. When your colour TV breaks down during the Stanley Cup finals, you don't let the boy who mows your lawn fix it. Maybe it will be a matter of prioritizing or even going without some luxury for a time. Spending a few dollars on yourself, your nutritional health, your marriage, or your family may just turn out to be the best investment you have ever made.



Swim AGAINST the Crowd!

It's time to take it upstream! Swim against the current! Go against the grain! 

God has given each of us our own unique set of fingerprints, DNA, plans and purpose. If this is the case, then why are we repeatedly following the crowd and trying to fit? Stop going along to get along..

Release the herd mentality and learn to swim upstream in the direction that God has outlined and ordained just for you.

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Ignore the distraction of comparison!

Happy and blessed Saturday! 

Sharing a Word from my Confident Woman devotional (Joyce Meyer). I pray it blesses you and will encourage you to work towards your gifts, dreams and callings and ignore the distraction of comparing....2 Cor 10:12

I struggled with this for years. I compared myself to everyone around me and others compared me to others around me. It stemmed initially from being a twin. People always compared us. Who's the prettiest one, who's the nice one, who's the bad one. ..on and on. This led into life comparisons and a depressing spiral of never being good enough. 

Well no more! I got tired of that cycle! 

I asked God to show me how high and deep His love is for me and to help me to be brave enough thru Him to do all I am called to do rather than sitting on the sidelines wishing and comparing. If He did it for me, thank God, then He can do it for us all. Praise God! 

I love you guys~


Listen to the Interview here with Laura Spragg, of Liptalk Nation!

MARCH 12, 2016 

So many people are suffering from Depression and Anxiety, that it has become almost an epidemic.  When a person suppresses their feelings instead of talking about them or letting them out, it may cause physical ailments and dark thoughts.  On my episode with Dr. Patrice Carter, she explains how she conquered such things as depression and suicidal thoughts.  Listen here if you have had a chance yet, because my take away’s will make more sense if you listen to it.


Dr. Patrice Carter is a Motivation speaker, Life Coach and Author of “SUPERB Woman: From Bad Girl to God’s Girl”.  Actually, Patrice wears many hats.  To Find out how many go


I have the highest respect for a person when they admit they need help and then “GET HELP.”  It really is okay to take care of yourself.  Too often, pride gets in the way for people to admit they need help.  At least that’s what we are told. I hear often, “I wish her pride wouldn’t get in the way; or even I wish his pride wouldn’t get in the way.” When yes, we can define it as pride, but I like to look at things a little deeper.  Maybe it’s a curse and a gift, but I like to know the reason why things happen or why people are the way they are.  So, When a person doesn’t want to get help, it could be, in my opinion, that they actually don’t feel worthy.  It’s a self defense mechanism to say “I don’t need help.” When quite frankly, they mean the opposite.


Patrice surrounded herself with the right people.  She knew that she needed to acknowledge the truth. And the truth is, she didn’t like having suicidal thoughts.  She didn’t like the path of destruction she was on.  Patrice challenges all of us to: “GET HELP”.  When we get help, we are allowing other people to hold us accountable to do the necessary steps it takes to get better, even when we are at our lowest.  LIPTalk Nation, you are not in this alone.  Even if you feel like it.  If you feel like it, than you’re lying to yourself.  Reach out to me, you don’t have to believe me, but I do know HOW to help you.  Dr. Patrice Carter knows how to help you.  THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE.


While Patrice was living her “bad girl” lifestyle, she confidently pointed out that she did not know her own personal integrity.  She didn’t know her self worth.  It was after she confronted her past, and got help that she realized that God made her for a purpose.  We hold strongly, at Life In Purple, to the belief that you are WONDERFULLY MADE.  God does not make any mistakes. So I asked Patrice what a virtuous woman means to her and the words “a virtuous woman has personal integrity” stood out.  Yes, a virtuous woman also knows her gifts, and she take’s care of her family and possessions… but… A VIRTUOUS WOMAN knows her self worth.


One of the first reason’s for the title of our podcast “LIFE IN PURPLE” is because purple is the color of a virtuous woman, not a perfect woman; but, a woman who knows her personal integrity and self worth.  LIPTalk Nation, YOU are worthy.  I will not stop saying this.  It’s really not about our past, but about our future.  God has a perfect plan for us IF we allow Him to use us.  Are you willing?

Regardless of where you stand on religious views, I believe we are called to love.  So that means, “We can wipe the dust from our feet” like Patrice says.  Sometimes, midway through the day, I say to myself, “I need to start today over.”  Works like a charm.

It’s okay to be overwhelmed. It’s okay to feel.  Speak life over you and your family.  These words matter.  So why not take Dr. Patrice Carter’s challenge to “Get Real”.  I accept this challenge.


The words, “I started over at 40”, really stood out to me, as I was listening to Patrice share how she got her start and where she is from.  She had a career job of working in the government contractor world, but something was tugging at her heart to live out her calling.  I was on the edge of my sit waiting to hear what she had to say about her calling.  I know many people who have gone through their whole lives and never knew what their calling was.  So, I’m thinking, “She is about to give people hope.” Well, She called herself a late bloomer, which is what I claim to be.  The tugging on her heart was to “help others”.  So she went to school to get her coaching degree, had a great support system and took a leap of faith to live out her calling.


Seven years have gone by since she started this journey; and Patrice will be the first to tell you that the journey has been difficult, yet rewarding.  In her episode, she admits that she had to confront the “bad girl” lifestyle she was living.  Really, no one knew what lifestyle that was, which made it even more difficult to confront.  In her words, she did anything that made her feel good and still knew the difference between right and wrong; but, on the inside, the Holy Spirit was nudging her to break this cycle of adultery and negative thinking.   LIPTalk Nation, I really love how she decided to confront herself and to tell others about her lifestyle.  How many of you need to do the same thing?  Although it’s not easy to confront yourself, it IS rewarding.  GET REAL!!

Thank you for reading this blog on Life In Purple.  Where the broken can heal and the successful can conquer.  If you’re thinking that this blog was just for you, or you have a story to share that connects with other blogs or episodes,  I would LOVE to hear from you.  Send me a quick email to or check out our website at Let’s all rise together and create a community that stops the negative talk.  We ARE wonderfully made.  What you say is what you become.


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Creepy Babydoll Changes Everything

I don’t know about you, but when I first saw the photo above of the “creepy babydoll”…I thought to myself, “wow, what a creepy babydoll!”
As I was deciding about whether to use it or not, I had this revelation-I only see the babydoll as creepy because when I was younger, some movie or person used this type imagery in a creepy way and this planted a seed in my mind that any type of image that looked similar to this would forever be “creepy”.
The same can be said about CHANGE (to become different; to make someone or something different: to become something else.)  Change can also make us feel creepy (strange or scary; causing people to feel nervous and afraid; annoyingly unpleasant: producing a nervous shivery apprehension). Why is that?
Because at some point in our lives, we experienced change or wanted to make a change and some experience, movie or person shared their imagery and experience in a creepy way and therefore planted a seed in our minds that any type of image that looked similar to this would forever be “creepy” thus causing us to become nervous, fearful, apprehensive and afraid of change.
Well, I don’t know about you, but instead of avoiding the “creepy babydoll of change”, I decided to embrace her by:

  1. Using her in this message to you, thus releasing myself from the perception that might accompany using such an image;
  2. Following my heart and deciding that I would rather move boldly into the creepiness of the unknown and find and encounter a cool new thing as opposed to continuing to live in fear of the (unknown) creepy babydoll(s) lurking around the corners of my life.
  3. Apply the Word of God…check it out! Psalm 37:4 says, “if you delight yourself in me, I will give you the desires of your heart.” Meaning, God will place the thing He desires for us within our heart and then He will give us the ability and resources to pursue them. Furthermore, he tells us in John 16:33, “to fear not, for He has overcome the world”…well, in my mind, that includes all of the “creepy babydolls of change” that exist or seem to exist in the world and in the places He has called me to.

I am applying this truth and killing the perception of “the creepy babydoll” in and over my life THIS WEEK, by launching my first virtual coaching package, entitled, “Become Fearless”!
Click below to Become Fearless with me:
Also, email me and tell me what “creepy babydolls” you plan to take on this week!  
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See you tomorrow,
Dr. Patrice J. Carter, CPLC
Breakpoint Coaching and Speaking




It ALMOST happened again!

verb  re·run  \(ˌ)rē-ˈrən\
·    : to do or run (something) again

Boys and Girls today’s word is “rerun”…can you use rerun in a sentence?
Let’s go together to dissect this little word with a HUGE impact…(courtesy of Merriam-Webster).

I don't know about you, but when I hear the word, "rerun", I think of 1980's T.V. shows and the show, "What's Happening" with the heavy set guy who was always smiling and dancing. What about you?
Related words are reproduction, replay, and, I will take academic liberty and add, INSANITY, which Albert Einstein defines as “doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Now, I don’t know about you, but "insanity" sounds almost exactly like "rerun" to me!
Why am I sharing this? Well, I believe in transparency, accountability and declaration.
I spent the greater part of last year, seeking God, begging God and pleading with God to reveal the depth, height, width and length of His love for me. I did this because, things were hard for me and for us in many areas-financially, relationally, physically, parentally, etc. 
However, it was difficult to walk through the specific tests and trials because what they revealed was, I still had areas where I wasn't fully trusting God. I thought I was. I was looking out and not listening up.

You see: 

  • I still had problems looking at what He was doing in others lives and wondering if He’d forgotten me altogether.
  • I often felt like I had to defend my choices and outcomes to people who refused to hear and understand that the things I was doing were in alignment with what God was saying even if they didn't ’t agree, see or believe; and, at times the lack of immediate fruitfulness caused me to temporarily doubt whether or not I’d heard him clearly. 
  • I had tons of "to do's" and vision boards and lists that seemed to grow more stale and more massive by the day as I struggled to find time to "do it all" and, more...and hope that it worked. 

I thank God for this because, through it all, I grew tons and I matured. 

Yesterday, I felt that same insidious lie trying to creep back in and undermine all of the great work God did in maturing me in these areas last year. But, such a grief came over me because the Holy Spirit was pressing on me that what I was sensing was a familiar of "sabotage" to come in and undermine this "new baby" in my life. If I fell for this lie, I could very easily find myself in a "rerun", thereby living last year ALL over again!  Well, the devil is a liar and a defeated foe!
The wisdom of Proverbs tells us that there is safety in a multitude of counselors. I won't lie, it got me down for a minute. I cried and I had to lay down for a minute and go "black ops" (meaning cut the lights off, step back and assess.....what is really going on? God is this the truth?)

I sought God and I prayed and God confirmed to me...He said, "follow me and the path I laid out for you!" It's okay to ask man, however, the answers have to align with God's original vision and plan for my life. There must be alignment and agreement with the Spirit. 
Given that, as we go towards bringing those dreams and visions to pass, no matter the counsel or opinions we receive, it is the Lord’s purpose that will stand and this shall be our main guide as we pursue (Proverbs 19:21). Otherwise we could end up in yet another of life's “reruns”. God forbid.
I am not one to get all moony over new years resolutions and what not, however, I do believe in the power of declarations. I declare: 
“This year will NOT be a “rerun” of last year!

We will not “rerun” the same emotions and erroneous thoughts through our heads!  

We will not “rerun” the same list of lies the enemy tells us regarding what we can't do and who God is!  

We will “not rerun” to people to confirm the words, guidance and direction given to us by a Holy, Omnipresent, Omniscient and loving God, unless He directs us to do so.

Lastly, We will not rerun becoming paralyzed with fear, failure, confusion and lack"!

The Bible agrees…check this out:

Job 22:28  Thou shalt also decree a thing, and it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon thy ways.
 Philippians 3:13
Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended it, but this one thing I do: forgetting those things, which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before. 

I want you to know that no matter how intelligent we are, how spiritual we are or what have you, we can still fall prey to reruns in our life.

Let us be transparent when we find ourselves in the midst of the “familiar” so that we can be held accountable to continue to be led by the Spirit of God and not man; and so that we can continue to walk forward in the things we declare- (meaning-to say (something) in a strong and confident way). 

I don't know if this serves you at all, but it helped me to share...

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See you tomorrow,
Dr. Patrice J. Carter, CPLC
Breakpoint Coaching and Speaking

Most Embarrassing Moment EVER! True Story…

Most Embarrassing Moment EVER! True Story…
My Mentor, we’ll call her “C”, shared something with me on yesterday that resonated, with me, and I want to share it with you…. BUT FIRST, a short, true story…
The year was 1985 and I was excited to go shopping, with my mom and sister, to Cheap Jeans-our ALL TIME favorite place to snag Jordache and Pierre Cardin jeans- a teenaged label queen’s dream!
Grabbing armloads of jeans we happily headed off to the fitting rooms, side by side.
I found a pair of jeans that I loved and rushed out to show my sister who was standing nearby eyeing herself in the mirror. I slapped her on the bum, exclaiming, "Your bum sure looks flat in those jeans!"  Funny right?
Well…it wasn’t my sister...I’ll pause to let that sink in….I had just hit and insulted a TOTAL AND COMPLETE STRANGER! Apparently, my sister had already tried on her jeans and made a selection.
Well, I just died RIGHT THERE IN CHEAP JEANS (cue Southern accent). My happy place had now become a prison! I hid in the fitting room for at least 30 minutes. My mom had to come and literally drag me out.
My Mentor shared this: people are SO afraid to fail in public and this is where many of us, me included, have missed the mark. If you are like me, we want everything we do to be excellent and on point. I GET IT!
However, the truth is, things don’t always go according to plan. It’s okay to fail IN PUBLIC. We can survive and even thrive in being vulnerable enough to live through it, admit it and grow from it.
When I am tempted to run and hide out in the fitting rooms of life because of the NUMEROUS embarrassing things that I do- I will remember the promises of the Lord and encourage myself therein:
Psalm 25:3 I’ve thrown in my lot with you; You won’t embarrass me, will you? Or let my enemies get the best of me? Don’t embarrass any of us Who went out on a limb for you. It’s the traitors who should be humiliated.
How’re your jeans looking? I can check…
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See you tomorrow,
Dr. Patrice J. Carter, CPLC
Breakpoint Coaching and Speaking