Excerpts from SUPERb Woman

EXCERPTS FROM SUPERb Woman: From Bad Girl to God's Girl

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Transformational Thinking

The purpose of this section is to assist the reader to identify mindsets that have held them back from achieving, reaching and operating in God’s divine plan for their life.

It’s Not My Fault! It’s My Past!

* The Lord gave my husband the vision for this chapter. 

We share many common threads, me as the writer, and you as the readers of this book. One such thread is, we all have a past and we all have a future. You cannot get to the future or fully enjoy it, until you have dealt with, made peace and reconciled the past, good, bad or indifferent.

So the first thing I will say to you is, STOP being a victim! This is not said to be harsh or minimize your pain. The purpose and the point of this is to get you to accept things the way they were and the way they are, deal with them, and then move on, so that you can be free. As long as you make an excuse for yourself by saying, “It’s not my fault; it’s my past!” (or some such variation), you will always perpetuate this cycle. It’s time to stop now and move on!

What part of your past do you continue to hold onto, relive daily or refuse to let go of?

I’ll Make Your Mess A Message

I heard someone say the other day on a radio broadcast, “God will take your mess and make it a message.”

Oh my goodness! That is SO true!

I want you to just think about this for a moment and then write down your initial thoughts on how God can take your mess and make it a message.

This is so awesome! I say this because there are so many instances in the Bible where God took people who were in the messiest of places and turned their entire situation around and used it and them as a message. Let’s look at a few:

·               The Samaritan woman at the well[1]: When she first encountered Jesus, she was in the midst of living with a man and had been with six others. Jesus asked her was she married to the man she was currently with and she said, “No.” She could have lied to Him, but instead she chose to be transparent. This is how you must be before God - TRANSPARENT.

Transparent: Free from pretense or deceit.

People sometimes lie out of fear -fear of judgment; fear of consequences. But our God tells us; the truth shall set us free! After her encounter with Jesus and accepting the ‘living water,’ He encouraged her to become an evangelist. The Word tells us that many believed on Jesus because of her testimony.

Are you getting it?

Now that you have the proof that God can and will take your mess and turn it into a message, let’s work on you.



This section deals with helping women to recognize the decisions they make, repeatedly, in their attempts to find the husband they so long for.

*Although the Proverbs 31 woman was married, your goal, if you desire to be married or remarried should be to please God and to allow Him to prepare you. Therefore, I was led to include this chapter for the singles. The beginning sections will deal with a number of the pitfalls, issues and stumbling blocks you may encounter as you move through this season. This section ends with a step-by-step guide of how to navigate the waters of being a single Christian and is totally appropriate for a singles ministry group.

Get Out Of My Way

I distinctly remember an instance during my ‘season of singleness,’ when I just got downright mad, angry even! I was mad, because I kept making the same mistake over and over again. I would meet someone, fall in ‘lust’, maybe love, but not the kind God intended and end up having sex in some form or another, only to find out (not too long afterwards) that he was not the one either. This cycle continued over and over again. I wasted many, many years. I pray you won’t.

Maybe you need proof or some background to go along with this story (that is all true, mind you) to help you get angry, too. 

Marriage Ministry

The purpose of this section is to assist readers who are married to identify the type of wife they are and to understand God’s plan, design, purpose and will for the Christian wife.

Which Wife Are You?

I recently met with a ‘friend’ of mine who needed someone to talk to. She needed a listening ear and, I believe, an understanding of her situation. I laughingly shared with her that I’d just labored through a similar situation and was sent of God to help her through her delivery. Her dilemma and our ensuing discussion centered on her experience as a wife and the struggle she was currently having with her spouse.

While driving home, from our meeting, the Holy Spirit gave me this topic: What wife are you? 

Proverbs 31:10 states: “Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.”

Virtuous:  Moral, righteous, ethical, noble, potent, powerful, effective.

So this virtuous woman is excellent in character. There are many types of wives mentioned throughout the Bible. Sift through your spirit to see if you can identify with any of them:

Mary: Holy and submitted to God.

Elizabeth:  A good friend and Christian.

Jezebel:  Manipulative and controlling. She would do anything to get what she wanted.